#WE ARE NORMAL AND HAVE NORMAL DISCUSSIONS LIKE ACTUALLY

[eeva-the-odd-thing]

1: no

2: my girlfriend

3: of course i do

4: yes

5: taken & closed

6: swordfight in fursuit, and i get stabbed ine abdomen and slowly bleed to death next to my opponent

7: sausage egg & cheese sandwitch

8: not officially, but i played badminton during gym ig

9: yep, not too often but yeah

10: i don't think ive ever been in a physical fight

11: yes, my wonderous girlfriend :3

12: nope

13: yes, i always am hating at least one person always

14: my wonderous girlfriend :<

15: 4 whole cats

16: bored and depressed

17: unfortunately no

18: nope

19: yes oh my god yes

20: what does snogged mean tf

21: play webfishing

22: nonono absolutely not. Zero 0 none

23: i want ear piercings, bot nothing else really

24: Mathematics. I'm so good at math and understanding mathematical concepts.

25: yes

26: human connection. Just to like have a convo with people

27: nope

28: nope

29: nope

30: my father

31: yesss

32: pastel pink

33: not really. I trust people too easily, does that count?

34: dont remember

35: my father

36: i dont think so

37: for me, forgetting. I will always remember that someone did something to me i just wont remember what

38: NO! fuck no holy shit

39: 15

40: nope

[Skip 10 numbers bc why not ig]

51: sushi

52: depends on what you define as a reson.

53: talked to me awesome mutual

54: nope

55: sometimes

56: zero

57: yes :3

58: fall weather idk

59: yesss

60: yeah!

61: not cute, but i like it

62: my wonderous and beautiful girlfriend :3 and also being myself and also hanging out with people i like

63: no, i like eeva

64: no, it would be easy actually:3

65: discuss with my gf if we could try being in a polycule, if she doesnt want to i would politely tell this friend that i am in a closed relationship with my gf, and that they could still be my bff if they wanted

66: yeah

67: whats with the opposite sex questions. Uh anyway my dad

68: i dont know

69: no

70: no, im too afraid of death to sacrifice myself for once person

These weren't horrible questions, these were very normal icebreakers except for a few. Horrible question post 0/70

70 horrible questions ... Fuck it

01: Do you have a good relationship with your parents? 02: Who did you last say “I love you” to? 03: Do you regret anything? 04: Are you insecure? 05: What is your relationship status? 06: How do you want to die? 07: What did you last eat? 08: Played any sports? 09: Do you bite your nails? 10: When was your last physical fight? 11: Do you like someone? 12: Have you ever stayed up 48 hours? 13: Do you hate anyone at the moment? 14: Do you miss someone? 15: Have any pets? 16: How exactly are you feeling at the moment? 17: Ever made out in the bathroom? 18: Are you scared of spiders? 19: Would you go back in time if you were given the chance? 20: Where was the last place you snogged someone? 21: What are your plans for this weekend? 22: Do you want to have kids? How many? 23: Do you have piercings? How many? 24: What is/are/were your best subject(s)? 25: Do you miss anyone from your past? 26: What are you craving right now? 27: Have you ever broken someone’s heart? 28: Have you ever been cheated on? 29: Have you made a boyfriend/girlfriend cry? 30: What’s irritating you right now? 31: Does somebody love you? 32: What is your favourite color? 33: Do you have trust issues? 34: Who/what was your last dream about? 35: Who was the last person you cried in front of? 36: Do you give out second chances too easily? 37: Is it easier to forgive or forget? 38: Is this year the best year of your life? 39: How old were you when you had your first kiss? 40: Have you ever walked outside completely naked? 51: Favourite food? 52: Do you believe everything happens for a reason? 53: What is the last thing you did before you went to bed last night? 54: Is cheating ever okay? 55: Are you mean? 56: How many people have you fist fought? 57: Do you believe in true love? 58: Favourite weather? 59: Do you like the snow? 60: Do you wanna get married? 61: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you baby? 62: What makes you happy? 63: Would you change your name? 64: Would it be hard to kiss the last person you kissed? 65: Your best friend of the opposite sex likes you, what do you do? 66: Do you have a friend of the opposite sex who you can act your complete self around? 67: Who was the last person of the opposite sex you talked to? 68: Who’s the last person you had a deep conversation with? 69: Do you believe in soulmates? 70: Is there anyone you would die for?

[jubmato]

i cannot stop drawing ctommy girl HELP

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[skitskatdacat63]

Fernando Alonso & His Relationship With Cards

I'm sure we're all familar with the cards on the back of Fernando's Vegas GP helmet by now, but did you know his relationship with cards goes a lot deeper?

I. Magic Tricks

You've probably seen or heard someone at least mention Fernando's propensity for card tricks. As far as I can tell he was doing them(publically) as far back as 2003 all the way to as recently as 2018. Even once performing a card trick, with a condom and a teddy bear(!??!?!??!!), in front of Valentino Rossi who said "How was that possible?"(x)

But how did this start? According to James Allen, "Fernando admits to having been heavily influenced by his grandfather, a mercurial figure, who taught him magic and card tricks, still one of his passions away from the race track."(x) And I'm not sure the validity of this one, because I couldn't find an actual source, but apparently he once said: "My parents are responsible for the two things I like doing most - driving and magic tricks. They bought me my first go-kart and a magician's kit."

In several interviews he described it as his hobby off track, and that he loved learning new tricks and surprising others in the garage with them! So clearly cards are pretty important to him both as a hobby but also to who he is as a person since they've been with him just as long as racing has.

II. Card Symbolism in His Helmets

This is the reason I originally made this post, but I thought I should also explain the origins of his card fascination first. As I said, we probably all remember the cards on the back of his helmet in Vegas, but did you know that wasn't the first time he had cards on the back of his helmet?

From 2008-2013, he used to have a pair of cards on the back of his helmets. The symbolisms of the cards themselves as well as the evolution of their design is really fascinating to me! Even more so with the recent development of the card choice in 2023.

Fernando said he wanted to reference his two titles in some way on the back of his helmet and after his friend sent him several ideas, he decided on having two cards(an ace of clubs and an ace of hearts, sometimes pictured with 05 and 06 on them as well), saying: "I picked the cloverleaf [the ace of clubs - Ed] to give me luck, but the only pity is that it doesn't have four leaves!"(X)

2008.

Here's the very first appearance of the cards! They're displayed flat, with the 05 and 06 clearly visible

2009.

Very similar to 2008, but with a slightly different design, and they're maybe a bit more straight with less shadow?

2010.

This is the first major change! I was sad they didn't have the years on them anymore, but then I realized they're sparkly to match with his signature lightning bolts on the top of the helmet!!

2011.

Honestly I'm still somewhat unsure if this is the actual 2011 helmet? It's pretty difficult to find clear photos of the back of helmets from older seasons. It's easiest to find them on replica sites or auction sites so I'm not 100%? But anyways, I like that this has the championship years on the underside of the cards

2012.

This is when I started getting weirdly emotional about the helmets. Do you see how they've progressed from being a centerpoint to being curled up and sad at the bottom of the helmet? Not listing the year anymore??

2013.

Same thoughts as 2012. And after this season, they cease to exist (just like his ferrari chair in the garage, WOAH CALLBACK), until cards make a reeappearance in his Vegas helmet, albeit in a different form

2013 Monaco(Honorable Mention):

For some reason 2013 helmets were easier to find proper pictures of, so I happened to witness this absolute beauty. The creativity of this helmet genuinely blows me away??? Wanting to keep the card motif, but making sure to incorporate it into the rest of the puzzle piece design?? Mwah! There was another special 2013 helmet but they didn't change the cards at all so I really applaud this one

2023 Las Vegas(The Return of The King):

The magnificent return! But look! The cards are different cards! Instead of being two aces, it's now an ace of hearts, a four of hearts(his driver number of course!) and, the, now iconic, representation of himself as a Joker. I literally could not believe my eyes when this helmet was released and I saw the Joker card, what a fucking silly old man....I really wonder if he felt nostalgic having cards on his helmet again or if he didn't think about it all and was just like, "ah cards because Vegas!!!"

III. Why Does This Matter?

*The rest of the post was factual, this is moreso my personal thoughts on the symbolism of the cards/designs

This post spawned from me recently watching the 2010 Bahrain gp and noticing "hey wait a minute...are those CARDS ON THE BACK OF HIS HELMET!?" It's a really tiny detail that's unfortunately covered up by the HANS device pretty much whenever he's wearing the helmet, so it's really difficult to spot! But I became fascinated with the fact that he had cards on his helmet before that recent helmet, and now here we are!

There's something to me about how the design of the cards evolves over the course of six seasons from the cards being front and center to being smaller, more folded up and closer to the bottom of the helmet. As I said, the 2012-2013 ones genuinely made me depressed because it feels, symbolically, like his hopes for getting another Ace are becoming more and more unlikely and falling away until they eventually fall falt and fade away entirely after 2013 and disappear for basically a decade.

But when they return? They're not the same cards! Instead of representing Fernando's championships, they now represent him as a person, displaying his driver number and his persona of being a Joker!! Though I do think it's interesting he happened to keep the Ace of Hearts, even though he talked more about the Ace of Clubs before. I'm not sure it's actually this deep in reality, but I like to think that it's him not letting his championships(and the lack thereof) define him, but rather letting who he is as a person shine and be the centerpoint instead! But on a sadder note, as @suzuki-ecstar said to me, maybe the Aces aren't there anymore because he's lost all hope for a chance at a third Ace entirely :(

[prettycottonmouthlamia]

So I have seen this exact response before and I'm going to call this out very plainly as for what it is: this is moving the goalposts. I'm going to engage with it because I'm a very nice person and there needs to be a serious rebuttal against this, but my post is not about this and neither are the grand majority of the posts about egg jokes. If it were truly just interpersonal, I wouldn't have to bring up feminist principles.

When I was a kid, there was a pretty common joke based on my last name that I will not be repeating out of respect for my privacy. It was extremely simple, and entirely benign, word association, and it upset me at the time. The key thing here is there was nothing wrong with the joke inherently, it was that the kids saying it with ill intent. If it happened now, I wouldn't care really. I've grown up.

There's nuance to every social interaction when it comes to comedy, but something that is important to talk about here, is that making someone uncomfortable is not a fucking crime. It is, in fact, a normal part of human interaction. We will make each other uncomfortable. Making someone uncomfortable is not a sign anyone has done anything wrong. Truth be told, if I made a joke, and someone came to me afterwards and said "hey that joke bothered me" I would probably stop.

However. This doesn't mean that uncomfortable feelings around certain jokes can't be revealing. If I made a joke about how white someone was and they got upset over it, it might be worth interrogating why that was. I get cranky about jokes about cooking, because I actually use spices thank you very much, spices absolutely fuck. But I wouldn't get upset over it, I'd probably just make a snarky reply. Sometimes an uncomfortable feeling is not best suited for a sit down conversation either, sometimes the best way to let it out is a little bit of good natured sparring.

It really should be noted here as well as we're talking about this, that egg jokes used to be extremely popular until a very short while ago. So much so there was it's own counter humor. I like egg jokes, but jokes about the "Prime Directive" of transness are in fact, pretty great too. The entire concept of the egg is pretty unserious to begin with, and I can think of jokes revolving around eggs that are considerable meaner than the trans egg joke (like, I'm a fan of Northernlion. You know).

It hasn't been until very recently where people have taken the idea that someone might be uncomfortable as "oh god, someone has been harmed" and have started this very weird crusade against egg jokes. The idea that a person's uncomfortableness is sacrosanct is deeply poisoning to any sort of good faith discussion or debate. You should be willing to engage with it, but it's not all coming from a good place, and that's the kind of posts this post is in conversation with.

The posts insisting egg jokes cause legitimate harm and that they're actually signs that mean, awful trans women aren't really feminists. The point of this post is to point out that maybe someone who gets really upset with egg jokes has some unpacking to do regarding their feelings on their own masculinity. These jokes are harmless and said with good intent. When someone says they really like gender tf fiction, especially nonconsensual tf, when a trans woman says 🥚!?, they're not making fun of the person. They're going "hahaha, that was me too!"

I bring up mirroring too, because this conversation is not all encompassing. It is almost entirely focused on trans women and egg jokes made at men. But there are egg jokes made as cishet women too. There was an entire bit of posting from trans men about how we shouldn't be mean to fujoshi, because a lot of them actually aren't fetishizing gay men, they're closeted trans men! They're eggs! Sometimes said seriously, and sometimes said purely as the same kind of egg jokes. Were there going to be cis women who felt that their femininity was being threatened? Sure.

This mirroring brings up the actual issue people have with egg jokes: the idea that you, as a trans woman, could be suggesting a cis man could be a woman is offensive. A cis man's gender identity, perceived masculinity, and insistence on his "cis" nature are worth defending. Meanwhile, these are not true for a cis woman. A suggestion by a trans man that a cis woman might actually be a man is flattering. Her gender identity, femininity, and cisness are not worth defending. Why would they be? Masculinity is a compliment.

This is a perspective that is deeply, DEEPLY, anti-feminist. It aligns with current societies views on masculinity and femininity, about the perceived worth of men and women. The transgression of becoming feminine, of becoming a woman, is the main crime than trans women are saddled with by society.

So ultimately. No. This post is not about that, the posts this post is disagreeing with is not about that, and ultimately, this is all being talked about and discussed on a deeper level than you seem to care to be. I hope you have a wonderful day all things considered.

I'm beginning to think in the context of "haha you might be trans" and "wow all men suck" jokes being perceived on this website as deeply awful and offensive to the person being joked about that a lot of you have deeply shitty cis men friends who can't take a joke.

When a friend of mine recommended Gushing Over Magical Girls I literally went "have you tried estrogen???" because the only people I saw talking about this series were other trans women, but he's not a fucking baby and found it funny. He did not find it an attack on his fucking masculinity or whatever.

The idea that trans women are reinforcing awful gender stereotypes through egg jokes, that we're pressuring feminine men somehow into being trans women, is TERF rhetoric. It's the defining rhetoric of conversion therapy, that trans people and trans healthcare are taking feminine, gay men and turning them into trans women. Just admit that you fucking hate women and get away from us.

[iguessitsjustme]

Something I find fascinating about Wandee Goodday is that no one has kissed yet (I know Ye and Cher have kissed but...) Like not a full on make out session despite having an established couple in the show that they could be using to show us kisses. But we get no kiss sex scenes from Yak and Dee and soft, somewhat chaste scenes from Ye and Cher. We all know both couples are fucking. But the lack of kisses where normally the show would have one couple more active in that department tells me how important kissing is to this story.

Dee has stated that it's silly but he doesn't want to kiss unless he loves that person and is serious with them. But the entire show is respecting the no kiss rule which tells me that it's not silly. The entire show is respecting Dee's boundary here. And yes, Yak and Dee have come so close to kissing so many times, but they haven't. Dee has always pushed him away and Yak has always respected it when he does.

It makes me wonder what's going to happen once the main couple does eventually lock lips. Will that open the floodgates? Will the audience get to see both couples kissing then? Or will it continue to withhold that specific moment of intimacy. There's something the show is saying about the expected parts of intimacy being taken for granted and also deserving of privacy and that's up to the people in the relationship.

Kissing can be an act of love and desire, but what the show is saying is that it is not a requirement for those things. I can be completely talking out of my ass here, but something about this is really sitting with me. Not only do we get Plakao as ace representation, someone who wants a partner to cherish and be cherished without sexual expectations, but we also get the show reinforcing the ideas that love comes in all forms with so many different acts and different people are comfortable with different things. And all of that is okay. And all of those boundaries are worthy of being respected. Regardless of societies expectations for what it means to be in a relationship and be physical, whatever is right for you is right and isn't that just beautiful?

[dykedvonte]

Mini rant below and in the tags, the only time I’ll talk about this and my personal take on it.

The way people talk about hypothetical male Anya on Twitter and the idea of how Mouthwashing would play out if the genders were swapped makes me remember how people still don’t take sexual assault and rape with male victims with the same gravity, especially when the perpetrator is female.

[horsemeatluvr23]

etho doodle!!!!! this one is late because i was having an identity crisis and thinking about moving to lebanon. anyways the necklace is bdubs missing tooth from secret life <3

[starbuck]

plans for tomorrow include:

Doing my weekly bird survey (HUGE win for job experience and volunteer hours)

taking a BATH!!!!!!!! i got cool and fun bubble bath stuff that i’m gonna use!!!! very hype!!!!!!

[trans-leek-cookie]

ur comment on that post abt dunmeshi mischaracterization is so real. the white ppl have got to go i have seen the most egregious takes on certain characters particularly the ones who are clearly not white and its like hmmm i wonder why these white ppl r so quick to demonize the characters that arent white 🤔

TRULY. It's so scary out here. Can anyone hear me

[walkingtalkingfrog]

Oh we’re dizzy and dissociating now. Cool. Cool cool cool cool cool.

[babacontainsmultitudes]

[just venting a bit into the void you understand you understand 😌] Lately I've been feeling very caught between "I have a lot of thoughts on Sparrow and Normal and all that with the ending and teen talk and feel like I need to get them out and voice them for my own piece of mind and resolution" and "I am lacking the strength and energy to actually sit down and write it all out and kind of really just want to fully move on to other things (AUs, fics, anything else)" but my brain can't seem to commit to either and that's quite frustrating cause it's just left me very restless. *Sigh*. Idk! Just needed to complain about that a bit ig, it's silly but this is what has been ailing me as of late.

[seaofreverie]

We should normalize bringing these sort of "small talk ideas" cards to meetings with other people so that it's possible to avoid the awkwardness of not knowing what to talk about to kick things off or if it's considered normal to talk about this specific thing and AUGHGHFCG all this stuff.

[too-many-paper-cranes]

oh hey the video is public now so i can post on tumblr about this without sounding insane! anyway everyone should go watch me and a few other speedrunners hunt fire for sport (randomizer edition)

[mafukasa]

also this is just a thought I had recently after seeing certain takes from certain people, but I really wish yall would actually remember that child neglect IS abuse even if it’s unintentional when talking abt tsukasa’s childhood yknow.

and also acknowledge it as something genuinely traumatizing lmao. cause as a victim of unintentional abuse some of the shit I had to read with my own eyes while being in this fandom is making me fucking sick just saying.

[matoitech]

it’s obviously important for ppl to criticize misogyny particularly transmisogyny in trans male communities since thats a trans community issue but if ur also tme and the only thing u ever exclusively talk about trans men for is talking abt us as bigoted misogynists (usually there’s a ‘binary’ slapped in front of it) i genuinely think you need to put the phone down go outside and remember that whatever insane misogynist guys online are saying is not a necessarily a reflection of like things adult men outside of a weird fringe group of freak transmisogynist dudes on tumblr who think the boys should get our own word JUST like the GIRLS or its NOT FAIR!! or whatever (and one coined by a fucking terf at that..) are saying, or justification for behaving weirdly about an entire diverse community of trans people.

again i do not say this to like dissuade ppl from discussing legitimate problems but like a couple points- 'binary' trans men r capable of talking about it ourselves, and we do, and we’re not the ones whose posts get shared about it. and second: if you’re only bringing us up to talk abt how shitty particularly TRANS men are you might have a problem you need to deal with? this is not a shocking statement. like at some point someone has to point it out to you and sit there and take the shit and patiently explain to you it’s that the problem comes when its literally the ONLY thing you bring us up for and act like we're not capable of talking abt this ourselves, and that its a problem how comfortable ppl r for letting ppl speak over/for us if the only similarity they share w trans men is.. an agab and not being cis (yikes!). or if theyre transmasc and male aligned in some capacity but dont have any interest in engaging with or considering themselves a part of like trans men, THEYRE the ones who need to talk abt it, bcuz the (usually 'binary') Trans Men wont (not saying those ppl cant or shouldnt but they may be treated differently for doing so)

first ppl liked using transmeds existing to throw up justification for treating us like a bigoted monolith you (uniquely) Just Dont Feel Safe Around and its normal to make assumptions abt us being transphobic especially if we don't identify by labels deemed 'safe' and Inherently More Radical, and now its pretending we all collectively cant recognize our privilege thru our intense blinding hatred of women and its up to you to save us from ourselves and beat some common sense into the inherently bigoted stupid about gender patriarchy dicksucker boys. like i dont know im tired of it when trans men being accused of only existing bcuz we want to be patriarchy bootlickers i guess is always what radfems have thrown at us, so its not like this negative perception of trans men filtered thru a supposedly progressive lense is new. a lot of adult trans men dont talk abt like particular hot shit thats discussed a lot on here rn (the 'trans misandry' shit for example) bcuz its was not a problem in the spaces we're in and we knew it was stupid as fuck right away and barely worth talking about to say 'yeah you know that thing we all know is stupid and bullshit? its stupid and bullshit'. bcuz we're not fifteen years old or weird misogynists. we have brains, don't hate women, and we dont all know and hang around the same people.

anyway dont take this post as a stand in for serious discussion and calling out misogyny (again especially transmisogyny) w other men, those posts do need to exist, i am not trying to say this stuff shouldnt be talked about. what i'm specifically pointing out is a frustrating pattern in the perception of and discussion of trans men that ppl probably dont realize theyre participating in. i do think it is very important to talk abt community issues and criticisms but if its literally the one thing you bring up trans men for i think being aware of that behavior has no NEGATIVES here. also do have to bring up i specified other tme ppl early on bcuz this isnt smth ive experienced or seen from transfems and their position as like the affected party of transmisogyny is automatically like .. if they have issues w trans men it is pretty inherently coming from a different place than like, a cis womans, or a tme nonbinary person, or a transmasc person with issues with trans men, or a cis mans, etc. tme ppl who are on a very different ground here, whose behavior is straight up different anyway

[freakwiththeknifecollection]

Years of reading and writing disapproving parent fic have come back to haunt me, as I'M now the one committing faux pas in front of my partner's uptight parents 🫠✌️